艾玛·海明·威利斯谈她和布鲁斯·威利斯分居的原因
早安美国
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwPHoC7sEZg
你透露布鲁斯现在分居，你知道，但他可以得到专业护理人员的帮助，而且正如你所说，他生活在一个安全平静的环境中。但这在网上引发了一些争论。
是的，我知道会这样。是的。那么，你想让人们了解什么呢？你知道，就像你说的，这对我们来说是一个艰难的决定，但这是最安全、最好的决定，不仅对布鲁斯，也对我们的两个女儿来说。你知道，这真的没什么好争论的，我知道布鲁斯一直都能得到最好的照顾。他的需求和我们两个女儿的需求都得到了百分之百的满足。所以，我不会就此发表意见。
但你知道这会引发一些争议。我也知道。正因如此，我才想把这件事说出来，因为我觉得照顾者总是被评判，这恰恰说明人们有时只是凭感觉说话，而不是真正了解情况。而且我想说的是，你知道，痴呆症在每个家庭的表现都不一样。你看到的痴呆症病例，只是个例而已。所以，你必须做对你的家庭最有利的事，做能保障你爱的人和年幼的孩子安全的事。
那么，你是什么时候意识到自己需要寻求帮助的？意识到自己无法独自承担这一切的？
是布鲁斯的神经科医生告诉我的，他/她告诉我一个统计数据，说有时照顾者会比他们的亲人先去世。我想，那是我幡然醒悟的时刻，让我意识到我需要帮助，我需要帮助并不代表我是个失败者。我可以举手求助。我之前没意识到这一点。我真的需要有人告诉我，寻求帮助是可以的。而我希望这本书能给照顾者们带来这种感觉。它让他们
有勇气照顾自己，因为如果他们不照顾好自己，又怎么能继续照顾他们所爱的人呢？你知道，今天早上听到你这么说，我确信现在有人在听，会说：“没关系。”我的意思是，这真是一个强大而重要的信息。布鲁斯现在怎么样了？考虑到他的情况，考虑到他的诊断，我觉得他恢复得很好。
谢谢你的关心。是啊，听到这个消息真好，因为我认识的每个人都喜欢布鲁斯，喜欢他身上散发出的活力。是啊。所以，你知道，在这一切过程中，我想我们之前在你讲话的时候也看到了一些照片，你和布鲁斯仍然找到了维系感情的方式，而且我们在《名利场》杂志上也看到了你们幸福的家庭。
你是如何抽出时间与布鲁斯保持如此亲密的感情的？是的。我的意思是，我觉得，你知道，对我们来说，就是和他在一起，享受当下，没有什么比和他坐在一起，拥抱他，亲吻他更美好的了。这些时刻如此短暂，你知道，我们……我们非常幸运他能在这里，我们也很享受人生中的这个新篇章。
在书的第一章里，你讲述了你们的爱情故事。是的。你知道，但是经历了这一切之后，你和布鲁斯的感情是如何变得更加牢固的？我我的意思是，我觉得这只是我们之间的联系，而且，这只是在人生新篇章中与他相遇，在他人生的新阶段，我们的关系现在已经转变为另一种形式。但我能够作为他的妻子，陪伴他走过人生中的这一阶段，对我来说是一种莫大的荣幸。嗯，我觉得你所做的一切都很棒。
就在我们这次采访之前你说过，穿上裤子，然后去工作。你做你必须做的事。是的，没错。进入状态的唯一方法就是走下去。而这正是我正在努力做的。
嗯，我很高兴你分享这些
而且我很高兴你 说了这些话。寻求帮助是可以的。照顾好自己是可以的，因为你必须这样做。你需要帮助并不是坏人。你不应该感到内疚，就像很多照顾者一样。举手说“我需要帮助和支持”是完全可以的。这时，我们需要真正地动员家人和朋友来支持我们。照顾他人不是孤军奋战，我们不应该觉得只有我们才能做到。我们需要真正地寻求帮助和支持。很高兴你向世界展示这一切，与世界分享。
非常感谢你，艾玛。非常感谢你。我们非常感激你。这段意想不到的旅程，在照顾他人的过程中，你找到了力量、希望和自我。
Emma Heming Willis on why she and Bruce Willis live separately
Good Morning America
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwPHoC7sEZg
you reveal that Bruce is living separately, you know, but but where he can get help from professional caregivers and also, as you say, in a safe and calm environment. But it kind of created a debate online.
Yeah, I knew it would. Yeah. What do What do you want people to know though about that? You know, I think that again like what you said, it was a it was a hard decision for us, but that was the safest and best decision, not just for Bruce, but for also for our two young girls. And you know, it's really not up for a debate to, you know, now I know that Bruce has the best care 100% of the time. His needs are met 100% of the time, as well as our two young daughters. So, I'm not going to take a vote on that.
But you knew it would cause some debate. I knew it would. And which is why I I
shed the light on that because I feel like caregivers are so judged and it just goes to show that people sometimes just have an opinion versus really having the experience. And and I'll say that, you know, dementia plays out differently in every household. If you've seen, you know, one case of dementia, it is one case of dementia. So, you have to do what is right for your family and what is going to keep your loved ones safe as well as your young children.
And at what point, what was the point that made you realize that you needed to
get help? That you just couldn't do this alone?
It was Bruce's neurologist that said, you know, he she delivered this statistic to me, letting me know that sometimes caregivers die before their loved ones. And I think that was my wakeup call to realize that I need to get help and I'm not a failure because I need help. It's okay for me to raise my hand. And I didn't realize that. I really needed permission for someone to tell me that it's okay to get help. And and that's what I hope that this book does for caregivers. It just gives them
the permission to be able to care for themselves because if they don't, how will they be able to show up and continue to care for the person that they love? You know, just hearing you say that this morning, I'm pretty sure there's someone listening right now who goes, "It's okay." I mean, that's just such a powerful and an important message. And how's Bruce doing right now? All things considering, considering his diagnosis, I think he is doing really well.
Thank you for asking. Yeah, that that is great to hear because there's no one I know who doesn't doesn't love Bruce and love the energy. Yeah. And and so you know it it all through all of this I can imagine we saw some pictures earlier when you were talking that you and Bruce have still found a way to be partners to have your relationship and we saw also you're in a beautiful family in Vanity Fair.
How have you been able to find the time to maintain a relationship with Bruce loving relationship? Yeah. I mean, I think, you know, for us, it's just about being with him and being in the moment with him and and there is no greater connection than just being able to sit with him and hug him and and kiss him. These moments are so fleeting, you know, we we um we're so blessed that he is here and we we are enjoying even this new chapter of our lives.
And in the first chapter of the book,
you talk about your your love story.
Yeah. you know, but through all of this,
how has your your relationship gotten
stronger with Bruce? I
I mean, I think it's just our our
connection and again, it's just meeting
him where he's at in this new chapter in
his life and um our our relationship has
now shifted into something else. But I
it is such a privilege for me to be able
to um as his wife to walk him through
this part of his of his life. Well, I
think what you're doing is is amazing.
And as we were talking right before this
interview, you said just put on you put
on the the pants and you go to work. You
do what you have to do.
Yeah, that's right. There's there's only
one way to get into it is just to walk
through it. And that and that is what I
am trying to do.
Well, I'm I'm so glad you're sharing
this and and and I'm so glad that you
said what you said. It is okay
to ask for help. It is okay to take care
of yourself because you have to.
You're not a bad person because you need
help. You shouldn't feel the guilt um
that so many caregivers do feel and that
it's okay to raise your hand and say, "I
I need help and I need support." And
this is when we need to really rally our
family and friends to be able to come
and and support us. Caregiving is not a
solo mission and we should not feel that
we are the only ones that can that can
do this. We need to really bring in that
help and support.
Well, I'm glad you're showing it to the
world and sharing it with the world.
Thank you so much, Emma. Thank you so
much. We appreciate you so much. The
unexpected journey, finding strength,
hope, and yourself on the caregiving
path is on bookshelves nationwide today.
